There is a concept out there that states, if you believe there is something specific that you can do in the next 24 hours that will make your work life, your spiritual life, love life and health worse, that there is something specific that you can do to make them all better. It is a choice and the choice is yours. Most of us know that the human being spends the first 7 years in a theta brain wave pattern, meaning, we learn like a sponge, and we do not have to be awake to learn.
Our parent(s) may have brought us up in a hostile environment that has created some horrific mental programs that help us self-sabotage ourselves today. But I am here to tell you, that once you know this, you can consciously change. You must remain present in the moment and practice, practice, practice, since repetition or hypnosis is the only ways for you to rewrite subconscious patterns, but you have done it before. Think about learning to drive a car… crazy at first, but now, you text, talk and tweet while driving… yes, I saw you.
Best way to get started is ask a true friend or spouse what in your behavior reminds them of your parents, and every time you catch yourself doing that, say out loud, STOP. And do or say something different, think something different. It will not take very long to make your patterns and programs what you want them to be versus what you were accidently programmed as a child.
I know this sounds over simplified, but it is not. If you are someone that grew up without a father figure or a mother figure in your life, the feelings of the person who raised you about that were impressed upon you and this impacts you today, like that or not it is true. But you can change it, you just have to me thoughtful and intentional about it. Word of caution, when you start becoming the best possible you, you may find yourself at odds with casual friends since those programs may have attracted them to you, but if they don’t like the best you, you don’t need them, because most genuine friends will accumulate rather quickly. You literally have nothing to lose and everything to gain. One final word of caution is that when the change starts to occur, you will not feel like yourself as your mind tries to fight back. Your brain will. Say wait, you have been self-sabotaging yourself by overeating for years and you just think you are going to stop, oh no buddy, 2am snickers craving coming tonight. Just be aware of it and say Stop, out loud.